There are many among men that believe that being virgin in their gender is the ultimate insult a man has to put up with. It is almost looked down as he has not had an opportunity to devour a woman and he is not the preferred kind and much more. Men think differently than women. For them everything has to be measurable, the bigger the better, the sooner the better and so on.
They live in a relative world. Everything in their lives depends on how better it is for them and how much better it can get. Every single aspect in lives is quantified. While women treasure virginity as their ultimate possession and would lose it for someone special and someone they love but for men it is all about getting laid and proving their credibility.
If a man has not lost his virginity yet then it is believed that he is not a good lover and he wont be good in bed because of his lack of experience. But what about men who want to save it for that someone special in their lives. Unfortunately for them it works the other way around and unless they lose their virginity they are not going to find that someone special for themselves.
But the fact remains that a person who has never had sex before in their lives has the full ability to be a good lover and a passionate lover too. The fact that they haven’t done it before has nothing to do with their sexual instincts. The only thing this phenomenon can be attributed to is their personal preferences, choices, circumstances and desires.
A lot of women believe that men would have had sex as it is always on their mind anyway and it is impossible that they could not have created opportunities to have sex before. They were not involved in a relationship then they would get a hooker but definitely they would have had sex. Since women already believe in this kind of pre-notion ideas, their expectations also revolve around the same beliefs. All this is nothing but a psychological trap which men and women have created for themselves.
Men should not come under the pressure for performance in se or the pressure to make their partner believe that they are experienced. The best way to enjoy sex and feel good about it is let go of inhibitions. When there is pressure for performance then men are always sizing up themselves, judging themselves and judging what is down there in their bodies.
They should look at sexual activity as a liberating experience more than just a physical craving. Sex doesn’t last for very long and in the end it is just fro those few minutes of heightened pleasure and men are willing to put everything they own at risk just to make it good for these few minutes. This is a very wide perspective and cannot be said in these simple terms but never the less when all the facts are consolidated this is the best possible way to put it across.
Men involve in a lot of masturbation because sex is not accessible all time but they have the craving pretty frequently. This way they get pretty adept at holding the climax and there fore they can derive long sexual pleasures by keeping themselves going on and not reaching a climax soon. But there are other factors to consider here. In a sexual intercourse the women feels different from a masturbating hand.
Masturbation takes longer and men should not get any ideas that just because the masturbation takes long they could also last long while have sex. They can’t because sex is a mix of so many factors, the time, the person involved in the activity, and a woman feels much better than barely a hand. So it is not possible to last long. Because men can’t last long they invariably trap themselves in the pressure for performance syndrome and they start feeling inadequate thinking their penis is not big enough and they can’t stay erect long enough and so on.
But the fact is nature intends sex to be that way. No man can go on and on for hours. It doesn’t work that way. The functionality of se is not built to last long and the pleasure is short lived, it has nothing to do with the size of the penis. So men should seriously consider letting go and concentrate more on just enjoying the moment.
Coming back to virginity actually virginity is a loose term in the world of Sex. There is a way to indicate virginity in women but in men there is no sure shot way of saying if the person has had sex or not. A lot of men have sex and still stay virgins. And many men never have sex but can still loose their virginity. In some cultures of the world men have to lose their virginity as soon as they are born but not through sex, they lose it through surgical procedures. In the United States the option is offered and is called as circumcising.
There is no way to tell from a circumcised man if he is or not a virgin. And then there are gay and lesbian communities who have sex but they have nothing to lose and need not lose anything. They can stay virgin their entire lives and still have sex every single day in their lives. That is why virginity is a loose term in this world in the current day scenario.
There is nothing wrong in being a virgin and not being a virgin too. Virginity doesn’t prove innocence in any way nor does it degrade men in any way. It has no control over these things and the only control it has is in your thoughts. There are many other activities while having sex and sexual in intent which is as good as having sex. These activities can take place with or without losing ones virginity. So virginity has no impact on character or a persons being.
Virginity is very deep rooted as a part of traditions and culture in many communities in the world and they even tie it up with gods and people’s beliefs due to which women have fallen prey to keep their chastity be being a virgin. In more modern worlds it is men who are put to test by taking virginity into account to determine their sexual capabilities.
It is actually more beneficial to all these people of they give virginity less importance and treat sex for what it is , just a as feeling they need to experience for that moment and at that moment. It should not be over rated and entangled with things like virginity which are much more sensitive factors. These factors only make sex a more pressurizing; some times people even dislike sex because of these factors.
There are many campaigns and societies in this world which campaign to make teens and some people understand virginity in amore mature way so that they have no inhibitions about sex in their future and develop a healthy attitude towards sex. These communities help both men and women. Often men and teenage boys are hell bent on having sex and losing their virginity that in the [process they lose their minds and get into illicit relationships, and even rapes and murders in the bargain. Virginity should not become the cause for social evil as it is widely misunderstood.
Teenager and the younger generation especially need to develop the right attitude about sex so that they develop the right attitude and go about it the right way which is agreeable by society and it is harm free. Inhibitions about sex are very dangerous and lead to psychological imbalances and weird attitudes in people. Sex is an individual feeling and it is different with each person. It is not a generalized subject where every single person does it in the same way and feels the same way.